the vow

Brad and I are nearing the 15 year mark in our marriage, so when I saw a best selling book called The Vow on a couples commitment to their marriage amidst tragedy, I rushed to hear their wisdom. (I am forever on a mission to be proactive in the marriage and parenting category to try to keep things from getting TOO out of whack!)

The book was an easy read, a lot like Heaven Is For Real in the telling of an unbelievable story of the power of prayer and our awesome God. I was SO inspired by their commitment to their marriage and oh my goodness, what an amazing story God had given them to share with the world. Unbelievable! I was thrilled to finish, just in time head to MN for a weekend with Grandma Vonnie. First thing on the list was going to the movie – how would Hollywood handle such an amazing God story?

No worries needed, they changed every inch of the story – EVERY inch of the story except the fact that they were in a car accident and she lost her memories of her husband. I spent the first 30 minutes with my jaw on the ground, unbelievably disappointed and a little angry. Opportunity lost. No need to say more (poor grandma got an ear full) and once I let go of it having anything to do with the Carpenter’s and the book I had just read, I actually enjoyed the rest. I mean seriously, Channing Tatum… yummy. However, I did feel it was my duty to leave behind the REAL story for Grandma to read and hope you do, too!

effective request

Valentine’s Day, oh the anticipation! I’m sure my sweet husband has been slaving over the perfect surprise to show me just how much he loves and adores me. And I, as I sip my morning coffee, wait with eager anticipation for him to execute the perfect Valentine’s display of affection. That would be AMAZING!

I learned very early on in our marriage that although God gave my husband a million things for me to love and cherish about him, he did not come with the gene that ignited his passion for expressing his love for me through gift giving. Determined not to grow old together and be disappointed by this, we mutually agreed upon and regularly implement operation “effective request.”

It goes something like this:

“I’ve been working p-r-e-t-t-y hard lately with all the extra company and birthdays, so I’m thinking that sometime in the next week flowers would go over REALLY well.”

“You PROBABLY already have this covered, but if you haven’t come up with a Valentine’s gift for me, I really would like a gift certificate to go get a massage.”

“I miss you and would really like you to take me out on a date on Saturday. I’ll get the sitter and I would LOVE for you to plan the rest.”

No need to beat around the bush or end up disappointed, just ask!